Becoming a father is one of the most special moments in a man’s life. It’s normal for soon to be dads to feel nervous, curious, and excited for the upcoming event. And since you’re still up to 9 months away from holding your child, but before that, you have all that time to educate yourself on what’s to come. Take this as a free dad’s guide to pregnancy. It will cover everything expectant fathers should know.
Skip the Parenting Textbooks
It’s so easy to turn to a book to tell us all the secrets we want to uncover and to satisfy the urge to know “what to expect when you’re expecting.” But the pitfall of reading this literature is that parenting is a strictly unique experience and the writers of these books are simply sharing theirs. Being a father is not about following a one-size-fits-all approach. So if you do happen to read a pregnancy manual, take the advice with a grain of salt.
Talk and Sing to Your Baby
You probably know or have heard this, but it’s true that babies can hear sounds during the second trimester – and by the third, they start recognizing voices from inside the uterus. One thing any expecting father can do is simply talk, sing or read to the mom’s belly. Your child-to-be will get used to your voice before even seeing you.
Plan For Your Father-Leave From Work
If there is a father leave policy at your company, that’s great news. Either way, it’s one of the arrangements you’ll need to make in advance to ensure that you and your baby’s mother are going to go through all of this together. Expecting dads should tell their managers and coworkers as soon as possible to secure as many days off as needed – usually around a week (for hospital time and the first days at home).
Buy Only The Things You Will Really Need
For first-time dads, pre-labor shopping is a big deal. Some items are mandatory, and others are more of a good-to-have option. Of course, you’ll want to be as prepared as possible but where most fathers-to-be go wrong most of the time is diving in before doing more extensive research – so go prepared.