Kids Prefer Going to Grandparents for Advice Rather Than Their Parents

Grandparents have always held a special place in the hearts of their grandchildren. Recent research by Preply reveals that this connection is stronger than ever. In a survey where children were asked about their relationships with their grandparents, the results unveiled some fascinating insights into the grandparent-grandchild bond.

Time With Grandparents and Preferred Advisors

An astonishing 68% of children stated that they would rather spend time with their grandparents, affectionately known as Nana and Papa in many cases, than with their own parents. Even more striking is that almost half of the respondents admitted they would seek advice from their grandparents before turning to their parents.

Surprisingly, the maternal grandmother overwhelmingly emerged as the favorite grandparent. This preference might be attributed to the unique role grandparents play. Sylvia Johnson, head of methodology at Preply, explains that grandparents can provide mentorship without the day-to-day responsibilities and stresses of parenting. Children often find solace in approaching their grandparents for advice, as they don’t fear disappointment or judgment in the same way they might from their parents.

State Preferences

The survey also uncovered regional variations in grandparent preferences. The states where residents indicated spending the most time with their grandparents were Arkansas, Alabama, and Louisiana, reflecting the strong family bonds, particularly in the South, where multiple generations often live in close proximity.

Yet, even within these states, respondents were divided regarding their preference for spending time with grandparents or parents. Alabama and Louisiana leaned towards grandparents, while Arkansas favored parents.

Benefits of Grandparent-Grandchild Relationships

Mom’s mom held a special place in the hearts of many children, with the maternal grandmother being a top favorite. Michelle Landeros, a licensed marriage and family therapist, suggests that this may be because the maternal grandmother often actively participates in childcare, creating a strong bond with the child. Children tend to gravitate towards the maternal grandmother, who is more aligned with the mother’s caregiving techniques and approaches.

Research shows the immense benefits of strong grandparent-grandchild relationships. Children who have involved grandparents often grow up feeling more secure and are better equipped to navigate life’s challenges. Having additional adults in their lives who offer unconditional love contributes to children’s sense of security and self-worth.