Knowing Your Limits
As kids, we would always have one reason or the other to skip a function, but perhaps the most prominent excuse was, “My mom won’t let me.” There’s no shame in admitting that even as adults, we come up with unique excuses that let us off many social events.
Generally speaking, blaming the fact that you have to wake up early the next day as your reason for not coming is actually the painful truth. Though if it is a white lie that you said in order to have a relaxing day inside, then so be it!
Adhere to the Schedule
Adults don’t have the luxury of sitting back and letting a day slide away. It’s always the job, the commitments, and everything on their schedule that keeps them on the edge of their seats.
Even if no one says it to you, it’s completely fine to not have everything together even when you are an adult. You are allowed to sit in bed in the morning and contemplate all your life decisions, even if one of them is what is making you so tired after just waking up.
Adulting Is Hard
Although it is a hard pill to swallow, we indeed heard it wrong as kids. Being an adult doesn’t mean always having the willpower to seize the day.
Adulthood comes faster than one might think, and before long they are stuck in a vortex of endless bills, accumulating dust on tabletops, and hundreds of unanswered questions about how to “adult” efficiently. A lion’s share of most people’s 30s is waking up in the morning and wondering if they have naturally become weak or whether they have a cold.
Sorry, adults! You cannot eat everything you want anymore. Unfortunately, there is no mom or dad around this time to blame that on. Sure, you will generally have the money to buy McDonald’s or Taco Bell when you cross a shop by a curb, but you will not want to anymore.
Why? When there’s more of your money on the line, you will start reminding yourself that there is, indeed, food at home that needs to be finished. Honestly, that’s the better decision both fiscally and health-wise.
Learning the Ropes
Perhaps you were one of the superior ones. The ones who had a totally clear understanding that they are transitioning into an adult and were having to deal with new and serious responsibilities.
However, for the majority, adulthood always hits them hard. Before long, thoughts like when school is reopening, who is dating whom, are replaced with questions about furniture costs, trash pick-up and household bills. For all those who aren’t there yet, enjoy youth while you can!
Worry for the Youth
Children often idolize their teachers. Given how the education system has glorified teachers over the years, it’s not unnatural for any student to think that their teachers must be the purest and virtuous beings on the planet.
This perception changes drastically when you become an adult and start to take a look around. That is when you realize that the person next to you, despite their profession, is just as messed up as you are. Interestingly enough, some of the wildest teenagers grow up to become teachers.
Just Go Lie Down
Remember the vivacious and energetic you from your teenage years? Do you recall how mad it made you when your parents canceled something because they were too tired? Well, as adults, you will live that life and understand why your parents were always making excuses to lie down.
Sometimes it’s because of that pulled muscle in your back or some inexplicable leg pain that you randomly developed. Then there are times that you just want to lie down because you have no more strength to go on. There’s no shame in that.
Taking it Easy
Getting older isn’t about being productive at all times. This is one of the most toxic myths we were spoon-fed as children. You do not have to be on your feet at all times achieving this or that.
The toll of being an adult takes a lot out of us mentally, and we tend to supplement that by limiting physical movement. You now relate to your parents or older family members who used to make an irritated grunt when they had to move an inch.
Whatever Makes You Happy
In your adult years, you are totally on your own and can get as wild or as mellow as you would like. It isn’t always about looking for big adventures that get the blood flowing. A lot of it is finding what brings you happiness.
It can be the most random of things. For example, a certain TV show to look forward to, or perhaps a particular sport. However, if you’re quite a quirky person, something as small and odd as a certain stovetop burner can bring you all the joy in the world.
Grocery Store Struggles
Unless you’re earning in six figures and saving thousands at that, there is no way a trip to the grocery store will not make you the slightest bit mad. With prices escalating at the drop of a hat, daily commodities are now pricier than ever.
Living is expensive and there is no better reminder of that than going to get your weekly/monthly groceries. You will ask yourself, “What is up with these prices!” way more times than you would like. That’s when you know you’re a full-blown adult.
While your spirit is at an all-time low due to endless duties and responsibilities, your body will start showing symptoms of stress through various pressure points of the body. In simpler terms, when you run the motors inside your head, the body makes it equal by giving you unnecessary pain.
Before long, Advil will be your one true friend. You’ll be so dependent on it that you will want it at home and in your purse like a best friend who can pick you up during your worst hours.
Schools and colleges need to start teaching basic life skills to children. Families and teachers should focus more on letting young adults know how to not set themselves on fire with the most minor tasks.
When you’re not sure about how something works and there isn’t someone to guide you without being snarky, you tend to rely on your impulses. Naturally, it’s a process of trial and error – you keep doing it until someone intervenes and lets you know how to do it the right way.
Just for Emphasis
Emails have become a part and parcel of our lives. It can be a work email or a message you send to your friend. Suddenly, getting the message across is much more important than grammar and punctuation.
Adult email culture is alarmingly dependent on exclamation marks. As you proofread your document, you start getting rid of the extras. You end up asking yourself, “How many exclamation marks is socially acceptable?”
Trauma Inducing Mails
A big part of growing up is growing out of the things that once used to make you happy. It can be your old high school fling who you used to think is super cool back then, or vintage photos with outfits you thought were all the craze.
However, a distressing one is the average adult’s repulsion toward mail. What arrives through mails? Bills, letters, even notices of eviction. Everything to let you know that you messed up passes through your mailbox.
Being Fiscally Responsible
Gone are the days when you could rejoice about getting $20 from your parents. With your mind filled with great ideas of what you could do with that one bill, you would leave the house. Maybe you could return with $5 to spare!
When you’re an adult, $200 is the painful equivalent of $12. Consider yourself lucky if you can save even a single penny from that amount. Having to make smart financial choices isn’t something we were all cut out for.
Why Bother Going Out?
Early in your twenties, having a weekend to spend partying with your friends is what keeps you going through the week. The 30s, however, will change that side of you. Going out all night and partying? Why risk waking up with one of the worst hangovers of your life?
Instead, you could stay at home with a beverage watching movies in your pajamas until you pass out on the couch. Trust us, it feels better than it sounds. Once you’re hooked, night-outs will be a distant dream.
Two More Minutes
This is something we all struggle with from the very start of our lives. The only difference is that back then, it was fighting our parents to let us sleep for another five minutes before we would have to start getting prepared for school.
Now that your parents aren’t there to forcefully drag you out of bed, it’s you versus your alarm as well as the lies you tell yourself. Power naps become the norm because somehow, your body is never fully energized.
Constant Back Pain
Our childhood is a beautiful mosaic of many good and bad memories. The perfect memory differs for all of us, but if there is a common ground, it is that almost all of us miss the time when our back wouldn’t hurt 24/7.
It’s difficult to say whether it’s the weird posture you maintain at work or if your body is simply too old to hold you straight anymore, but the results are annoying, to say the least.
Prioritizing tasks and setting aside time for them ensures productivity and efficiency. Sadly for us, adulthood isn’t the bed of roses we thought it was as children. You find yourself lamenting over minor chores and finishing them is like your challenge of the week.
Doing laundry is a universally hated chore. The washing and drying is the easy part. What takes it to the next level is having to fold and put them away. You’re lying if you say you get that done right away!
Embracing Big Changes
Back in the ‘50s, there was this concept that everyone needs to have their life sorted by the time they are 30. Imagine how draining that was! As times changed, people understood that there is no certain age by which one must know where their life is headed.
Soon, the 30s became the new 20s. Another change followed suit: nine pm is the new midnight. With a list of tasks and errands to do the next day, it’s no wonder that people would rather hit the hay early on.
Age Doesn’t Matter
Kids tend to think that all adults are the same age. No matter whether you are in your 20s, 30s, 40s, or even 80s. To them, you are another adult who has generic hobbies and a list of rules for them. Nature has a way of balancing things out.
So, as an equalizer, all kids are the same age as adults. They can be a child, teenager, or even a young adult. However, to a full-grown adult, they are simply ‘children.’
Era of Online Orders
The generational gap is a wonderful thing. It serves as a reminder that changing ages is a powerful and undeniable force. When we look at the lives of boomers or millennials, it’s rather wild how they seemed to have everything working in their favor by the time they hit the 30-years mark.
A house with a picket fence, children running in the backyard, and a stable job. Gen Z is surely having a more difficult time running the ropes of their lives. Even ordering food upfront gives us anxiety.
It’s About Self Sabotaging
It’s fine to procrastinate. You can live without finishing this job for a day or so. People tend to have different coping mechanisms. In the process of surviving the rat race, we might not notice the toxic behaviors we start displaying.
This behavior does not necessarily have to be aimed at someone else. Occasionally, we self-sabotage. For instance, convincing yourself you will have time in the morning to get gas. The result? Your car will stop in the middle of the road and you will be extremely late.
Googling Numbers Instead
Some teenagers are afraid of confrontation. They may also be scared of talking to strangers. So, the moment an unknown caller rings your family phone, you bring it to the nearest adult. Somehow, you’re sure that they have it under control.
However, what do you do when you’re the only adult available? A great way to avoid spam calls is Googling unknown numbers calling your phone. You can avoid phone call anxiety altogether.
Have you ever been so stressed about being stressed that you forget about what was the cause of your anxiety? Probably one of the weirdest parts about growing up is stressing about overstressing.
When your mind is overburdened by the list of things you have to complete, the rest of the body notices. Unfortunately, the reaction isn’t the best. This is when healthy habits like eating right and exercising come into play to help you out.
Survival of the Fittest
Children have strenuous routines. They have to be up in the morning, do hours of school, finish their homework, and somehow do a sport as well. Knowing someone has your back to take care of other tasks is a huge relief.
That privilege, however, is snatched from us when we become an adult. Unless you are rich enough to afford a helping hand in your house, you have to get everything done yourself. Which means coming back home after your 10-hour shift at the office and doing household chores.
Years in Between
As you age, you will find it extremely funny how the tables turn. When you are younger, you will thrive on the noise, excitement, and adrenaline. However, with age, calmness and tranquility seem more attractive.
Say goodbye to the days when you used to sneak out of your parent’s house to attend a party or meet up with your friends. Adulthood is sneaking out of a party to come back to the comforts of your home. Change is a good thing; accept it.
Where’s the Fun?
One thing that many adults miss about their younger days is having the leverage to not take everything seriously. Bogged down with responsibilities, many adults tend to lose their fun spirit.
If the world of grown-ups is sounding boring to you, that’s because it is. Talking about dinosaurs and action figures is no longer so cool unless you’re with a child. Then it’s like a trip down memory lane. Hence why people have kids!
Too Much Power
With great powers come great responsibilities. While this might seem like a trivial matter to some, it is quite a conundrum for others. As an adult, you have full control over your money. You spent days in your childhood fantasizing about everything unnecessary you would buy when you could afford it yourself.
Sadly, not everyone’s income allows that. Making wise decisions is a part of the game. Just because you can eat everything in the restaurant doesn’t mean you should. This should be reminded to every spiraling adult.
You Understand Your Parents Now
As frustrated as you were with your parents as kids, the perception will change drastically when you are in their shoes. Realizing that your parents had a reason to be the way they were is like a soft blow to the head.
The sheer panic of rushing to the kitchen to take out the chicken your mother asked you to do five hours ago isn’t a memory you can forget. It’s when you start living the life of your mother that your former self will start annoying you.
Little Things of Joy
Not every victory has to be a big one. Similarly, you don’t have to receive joy from the grandest of moves. The stress and demands of being an adult can be overbearing, which makes it even more important to enjoy the small things.
Personal growth is accepting that your life has moved on from rejoicing over big trips and Christmas. Replacing the dirty, beaten-down sponge in the kitchen for a new one? That’s where the goodness lies. Disclaimer: If this applies to you, you’re over 30.
Figuring it Out
Being able to live with responsible parents is a boon. They take over the reins of the house and complete the most important tasks. You might not have been able to understand why your parents would put the same meals on the table five days a row but now you surely will.
Deciding what to have for lunch or dinner is easy for a week or month. When faced with the same question every day for the rest of their life, one would rather starve than answer it.
Learning to Keep Track
Adulting means understanding and respecting responsibilities, no matter how menial they would seem. Filing your taxes, paying the mortgage, house maintenance – these are all heavy tasks. When do you know you are an adult ready to take on this ruthless world?
As hilarious as it would seem, the sign is when you have managed to use a pair of sunglasses for a year without losing them. Exception: Losing your house or car keys does not count and is something you may do until your last breath.
Sky High Prices
Handling finances is amongst the most grueling parts of being an adult. You’re extremely lucky if your parents are paying your college bills, or if you got in through a sizeable scholarship. Not only that, but every part of college requires money.
Nobody will want to pay you now that you’re an adult. Being in a sorority is an expensive affair as well! At the end of it all, you’ll be so tired mentally that a nap will sound like heaven on earth.
Who doesn’t enjoy a good deal? Adults love sales and discounts. The grocery store is your battleground and the task is to leave without going broke and having tears in the corner of your eyes. This is when you need to put your wits to the test.
Found the chicken for 50 cents less? Put the pricier one down – no one will judge you for it. Because almost everyone is doing the same. Cutting corners is a habit as old as time so put your sharp eye to good use!
The Unforgettable Ride
“Adulthood is easy. It’s like riding a bike and the bike is on fire and the ground is on fire and everything’s on fire because you’re in hell.” Totally kidding about that quote! Or are we?
While adulthood is definitely harder than high school, it’s not always so bad. The part that scares people is that you now have a whole different set of expectations to live up to. Not to mention how fast times go by!
How to Set Priorities
Even in your 20s, you may have had the physical and mental strength to stay up the whole night. Being in college is no joyride and all-nighters become a regular deal. The 30s are an entirely different phase. Unless you have to, you may not want to stay awake past nine pm.
There’s nothing wrong with going to bed early. If you can refer to the old as time saying itself, a revamp would be, “Early to bed, early to rise, makes an adult less exhausted and depressed.”
What’s one thing no one tells that about being an adult? You will always have something to do. You don’t know how all these tasks piled up and what you’re going to achieve from them anyway, but there is constantly something running through your mind.
If you’re relaxing, that means you’re ignoring something that is surely much more important then. As your to-do list gets longer, the fear starts to settle in but you will not attempt making it better.
Our Least Favorite Rom-Com
Hollywood lied to us! Being in your 20s or 30s doesn’t mean you will find love outside your door with a bouquet. It certainly doesn’t mean a corner office on Park Avenue where you will cash hundreds of dollars of checks.
Life is an adaptation of a romantic comedy, except without the romance. Even if there is, you get tired. The comedy element is supplied by you as you laugh at your current state. Being able to laugh at yourself is one good thing to learn.
Believe it or Not
If your younger self would hear that one day you would rejoice about buying new towels or a pressure cooker, they would surely be disappointed. After all, this must not have been what you envisioned yourself doing in the future but unfortunately, this is a painful reality.
Adults become entertained by the strangest of things. They aren’t excited by a cheesy, over-the-top teen flick anymore but insurance plans and maps will surely get the gears going.
Digging Into the Pocket
Did you know that having to pay for your own Netflix or Hulu account is enough to decrease the happiness you get from it? Your parents will not pay for your TV bills anymore, naturally. The newfound financial struggle can be rather tough for many.
You go from having a place with free food, shelter, and Wi-Fi to a painfully expensive small apartment where even paying the TV bills sounds like a hassle. Who said adulting was fun? They were playing a cruel joke.
What to Look Forward To
With so many things to do over the week and months, adults need planners for everything. You don’t do it and suddenly you’ve missed eight birthdays and two wedding ceremonies in 10 days. Plus, making and filling planners has a calming effect that almost all of us could use in our hectic schedules.
If you procrastinate a lot, your planner won’t be prepared until the middle of the year. Remember to set aside time for organization and you’ll never miss a thing. Not even the opening of an envelope!
Slow Down There!
Out of the many basic skills adults are forced to learn to survive in the world, many of them require the use of electronic gadgets. These tools don’t come cheap. Many even save up for months or years to get the equipment of their dreams.
You don’t have to purchase everything at once since the monetary burden would be unimaginably high. Buying one at a time is a better idea. But perhaps prioritize the ‘needs’ over the ‘wants’ first, right?
Youth is such an incredible time. Your hormones are all over the place, for once in your life you’re genuinely enthusiastic about waking up the next morning, and your body doesn’t hurt all the time. Seriously, what are we doing so wrong that is making our bodies react like this?
You could fall off a tree as a kid and remain unscathed. Sleep with your neck in the wrong position as an adult and the pain will give you a headache! Congratulations! Your neck is now immobile.
Asking for Help
Has there ever been an instance when you were searching for an adult for assistance and realized that you’re an adult yourself? Even well into our 20s, 30s, or 40s, we all need someone to rely on.
Adults will often be on the hunt for “adulterer” adults to get the job done. It’s rather misfortunate how we went from being babied by our family and teachers to being expected to take control of our surroundings. Perhaps you just aren’t “adult” enough to shoulder those responsibilities!